Live In Relationships: Why People are still afraid of Accepting it.....? ? ?

Forbidden Fruit is always desired.....!

We all know this cliche and agree to it to certain extent. Same is the case with Live-in-relationships.

We(Singles Like me) all are covetous of all the guys or gals who are into these kind of relationships. To get involved in something clandestine is enjoyed by sundry and all(Do you remember the childhood days when we used to steal 50paisa or 1 ruppee from mamma's purse and used to go to confectionery shop to buy candies. I used to do it a lot)

Live-in-relationship is a thing which is happenning a lot now a days but still people are afraid of accepting it in open/daylight. There are numerous people engaged in it but not telling a single thing to their parents. Gender is not an exception here. Guys and gals are equally engaged and hiding these relationships from the world for no reason. In Metros like delhi, bangalore, chennai and hyderabad, people have even started accepting it to a certain extent but in cities like lucknow, kanpur, ghaziabad, chandigarh etc. people prefer not to say anything in favour of this kind of relationship. Love is still considered as a sin in most part of this country(a country where Lord Krishna always talks of 'Love' and the Love of Lord Rama and Sita is always remembered and celebrated, A country where 99 percent of the bollywood films are based on Love)

Till now it was about the current situation of Indian society about the acceptance or unacceptance of these relationships. But Have we ever given a single thought why this is happenning in our country only. Probably I have got a few answers for it.

First, Our fathers and fore-fathers have not seen this kind of age or era where a guy and a gal preffered to stay together without getting married to each other. They(kind of) consider it as a profanity or blasphemy which certainly it is not(my view). They feel that living with a girl before marriage is sin as we should not be involved in sex before marriage. Do they have a valid answer to proove their point. Certainly not. Doing sex before marriage might be wrong for the most of the "Indian" orthodox people but today's youth is not able to digest it and hence they are getting frequently involved in these surreptitious relationships. It is just that they are afraid of their parents to reveal there 'Deeds' because they know that it Will be considered as a 'Misdeed'. Ohhh Gosh.....these so called moral Boundaries(Most of the people will call me either ultra-modern or pompous or they might even call me a person having no morals, but I dont belong to any of these categories......I am just an ordinary Indian common man who wants to express himself)

Second, Still We look forward to our parents for making the final decisions for us. Even if We are a gene of Bond-007, but at the end of the day we are answerable to our parents and are not allowed to take an independent decision or else we will be considered as a child who does not listens to his parents.

Last, But not the least, We ourselves are not so sure of the veracity of the relationship which we step in and hence We think that there is no use of telling it to parents as the relationship will be getting over in a day or so(figuratively and not literally). And on the other side we have a thing in our mind that if our relationship becomes success then we will tell our parents about the relatinship(and not at all about the Live-in stuff) and will be getting married to each other. I just don't get one thing: Whether these people dont have faith in their own relationship or they dont believe their parents.......Anywayz they just create problem for themselves by hiding it from their parents as at the end of the day they are blamed of cheating or treasory or sedition.....either by their parents or by the girl/guy. Still people are preffering to go for surreptitious Live-in relations.

I think this is the time to Stand for youself or else God help these poor Chaps or atleast give them the courage to show there 'Audacity' so that atleast they themselve dont feel like doing a thing which is a sin.

Article By:
Pushpak Pandey

Are We actually living in a real democratic country: and Why Anna got people Gallore in his Anshan

Democracy means: A place where all are equal(religion, people, views etc). Let's talk about our own Indian Democracy. Just have a look at a few fascinating but cruel facts:

The world knows us as a Chaste democratic country, But do we feel like the same.....We are living in a country where speaking publicly against our so called alleged politicians is considered as a crime. It is not applicable only for common man.....but even when public figures like Anna and Baba Ramdev say something publicly...they have to face the repercussions of it. It has become a country where writers like Taslima Nasreen are not provided security just because she has written things which actually are happening in and around our country. It is a country where Painters like M.F.Hussain can not give shapes to his imaginations and dies in a foreign country just wishing to die at his homeland till his last breath. It is a country where still the government does not knows properly that how to calculate poverty line. It is the same country where there are no such strict punishments for Vandalism(recent incident of vandalism at TOI Mumbai Office) and yes it is the same country where Kasab eats biryaani at the government costs. It is the country where Narendra Modi claims to be non-secular and still wins poll consecutively for two terms and on the other hand no one even knows properly about the "Iron Lady of Manipur" Irom Sharmilla fasting for more than 11 years. Three days back, she made this comment for the mockery of our democracy by so called politicians:
'Sharmila said promises made by politicians during campaigning were a mockery of a democratic country and condemned politicians for failing to repeal the AFSPA despite "countless promises".'
 http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-01-27/india/30670088_1_irom-sharmila-chanu-afspa-poll-promise
  And there is noone to listen to her woes even if she is not fighting only for herself.
It is a country where CommonWealth Game Scam culprit Suresh Kalmadi gets bail after 8 months and it is the same place where Female child is still considered as a bane and government is still a mute spectator.

If I will start mentioning such incidents in a  hierarchical manner then probably I will have to spend a few years writting those stories.

But what I have realised is that the people of our country are very smart and they have learned the way of surviving in these situations. Silence...is what they have started relying upon. And they are carrying the fire inside themselves without uttering a single word. And that is why when they get a platform(like of Anna's anshan) they find themselves helpless but to take part in it. They find it a way of expressing their anger. And that is why people who were not even aware of Anna's LokPal intentions, took part in it. That was just an emotional digression from the belief which we had in our Government. I am still wondering that till how much more time will we be carrying this burden of being a Democratic Country unless some revolution or mutiny( I dont wish for a coup) takes place in our country.....? ? ?

This is the kind of democracy we are in.....Unfortunately, I would have rather preferred communalism, capitalism or autocracy as there would have been other developments atleast if not Humanity related.



   Article By:
-- Pushpak Pandey 

Chikni Chameli